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I hate the sweating!!! The sweating makes me embarrassed which makes me sweat more!

I’ll take a pass on anyone besides God involved in my spiritual wellness some things are not to be forgiven and when it comes to your souls only God is worthy of tampering but that’s me you can give your wellness to anyone

Love Bombing is always puzzling to me - because what happens if you are raised to be a caregiver, so therefore the caregiver may operate in most relationships by offering their help/giving gifts sincerely - I think there is needs to be a clear distinction here - as it could be clearly non-abusive and unintentional, based on their nervous system programming.

Please tag me I want to overcome gay shame

Thank you for your video.

You call it performance anxiety, I call it sexual depression. You simply lose the joy of doing it, or the joy of starting. Nobody is realizing this and this is why there is no cure for this yet. Best thing you can do is to do things that make you feel good, sunlight, drink water, good night sleep and exercise will improve your joy, and then will improve your sexual joy for better erections.

Thank you for this , but my new friend has 2-3 panic attack every day and I just want to help sometimes she is rude and now I know why she does not mean it .

We are going to have a good time for a few weeks now but not to worry about what do I have to do that 6th or 6th of this semester so you have to take the exam on the 10th of August and I expect that I

super clear and sensible presented insuch a kind way. Thank you!

Me and my wife are in couples counseling we just started I hope it helps us both maybe my wife will confess some things I already suspect? She was very hesitant at first it took her a few months to agree I don’t have much evidence but I do feel my wife committed infidelity at one point in our marriage and was the exact time frame we started to have problems including her cutting me off from sex and moved out of the bedroom into a spare room we had I will forgive but I need her 100% honesty and sincereness and reinstate sex in the relationship

What do you call a victim of abuse that refuses to read about narcissism and doesn't want to ever get any help?🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

ok, now I just need a partner lol

How can i come out of Sexual performance anxiety, am about losing my relationship

My left ear enjoyed this. See if you can fix your sound in editing. Otherwise, thanks for the info

Its good you put the text in to accentuate the main points

so in conclusion she said : You LGBTQ people cannot have babies until NORMAL mentally sane people are Involved and you would raise "there family" not your own. (just act like it lol) and besides law the NORMAL people has every right to claim there baby from you. Your family's blood will be Lost forever, surely your sane parents and ancestors will be in huge pity and disappointment. and you have no reason to Justify yourself accept the fact that you chose to be like this. Lord have mercy and damn the devil.

This is my greatest challenge now, am about losing my partner

Thank you, I appreciate your experience and study on Spiritual Wellness. 👊🏾 ✊🏾 ✌🏾

Thank You for this information it is truly what I have experienced

Thank you for this clarification.

I thank God for your enlightening and explanation...any type of abuse can cause a person trauma,anxiety and insecurity!!!

I didn't get a talk. My father gave me several books to read including The Joy of Sex. Ref: I don't feel any good emotions so i only felt adrenaline.

I like the questions... 2:00

Helpful thank you. A borderline (BPD) mother that is in constant vitim energy , She can lash out. Afraid for my father.

[Thank you! This was a very helpful video that in the past I felt so much shame I couldn't even watch it without feeling even worse.]

Nice explanation ! Well, I have sadly a very different experience. Very unsafe experience. I had been told that online courses of Annie Brook are the right thing for me because it is somatic, movement physical approach that I was searching for due to a physical impairment that was very well known to Annie Brook. I came there because of somatic physical issues in my body and made it very clear what I am searching for, in form of e-mails that Annie Brook read and many time in the private sessions with her and in the online course of her. I had been asking Annie Brook and her stuff what kind of therapy modality it is, it did not seem to me as somatic or movement physical approach. I received no answer. In reality, I experienced that there was no somatic therapy, but the approach was aimed at people with behavioral and mental troubles like suicide, depressions, substance abuse, personality disorders etc. The stuff of Annie Brook tried slowly but surely instead of this claimed somatic approach implant ideas into my mind: they just said in the online public course out of the blue that I apparently " I am self-attacking myself" and that " I shall not do this" etc. I have never heard such a phantasmagory before. I told them repeatedly that they don´t need to worry and that I do not have such problems. However, they di did not stop. Slowly the experience developed into being attacked for wanting to ask a question/ or share my experience as other participants were allowed. I was literally not allowed to participate in the online courses and I was ostracized from the group. It was publicly shared about me that " I have no money, so I can do some other online courses" and much more. Once I managed to bring up my experience of a sick heart that I had in the past (the participants were encouraged to watch a picture of heart, so I brought up what my body needed to), I was immediately shut down in an aggressive way that in that sense, it does not matter what I say or what my body had gone through, that now I am in this group and I shall be safe with them and mainly, I have to shut up. I wrote an e-mail about this incident to the woman who did it (she was apparently a therapist accordingly Annie Brook, but in reality, she was a hairdresser, no therapy license). This lady responded that she attacked me because she does not listen to me at all and thus she did not care what I was saying. It was obviously a general approach towards me. She also told me that she does not listen to me because " I am speaking fast". It is quite a lie, however, somebody who is incompetent while playing a therapist can do lots of iatrogen damage and does not want to admit it. So, this person will invent any kind of justification to tell the victim why the victim had been badly treated and that the victim deserves the bad treatment. Annie Brook was so kind and offered me a scholarship for her online course. I had found out that were many people with scholarships (including the people Annie Brook wanted me to work with them as with "therapists"). I have felt very grateful toward Annie Brook. Annie Brook had written me an e-mail that I can get the scholarship, but only if I will work with a therapist who she is training. I felt obligated to do so because Annie Brook was so kind to give me a scholarship price for her online courses. The experience with the first therapist was was not that good: It took her 6 weeks to schedule a session with me. She was constantly losing my e-mails or she had to prepare for Easter etc. Finally the session might have been helpful as this lady seem to be nice, however she needed to direct the question of my physical sorrow that I came with into implanting into me these words: " I am in double bind" . Double bind is seen as a way of miscommunication, usually with intention to manipulate the other. Usually people with personality disorders use this deliberate way of miscommunication. It was as well forcefully pushed on to me that apparently " I am as well in power struggle" etc. Not sure what it should have ment. I wanted my somatic approach, I wanted an attention to my body. I wrote to this lady that I have the feeling that she does not want to work with me because she had these troubles to schedule a session with me. She responded (this time immediately, no need to wait for weeks) that I am mistaken and that IT MUST BE SO HARD FOR ME TO FEEL THE FEELINGS OF OTHERS and being persuaded that I know that they feel these feelings even thought this is not really what she feels. Another phantasmagory. Or attempt of iatrogen damage by trying to mind control me or move into some mental disease ? I had never given Annie Brook nor anybody from her stuff a permission to play a therapist for me, not at all to try to invent some diagnosis or mental diseases about me. I had told and written to Annie Brook that I search for a somatic therapy. Annie Brook had also never revealed to me what she is going to do behind my back. Later, I found out that Annie Brook offers a program for therapist who she trains. That was in the time I paid her money. Later Annie Brook changed it that anybody can be this "trainee". A coach, a therapist that is not registered, not licensed (basically anybody). I had only the information by Annie Brook that she trains therapists and that once she will train them, she will let me know. To my surprise the first therapist was a lady who did the same online course just couple of months before me ! However, I was not told by Annie Brook that these so called therapists in training often have no education in psychology, possibly as well no experience with psychotherapy whatsoever and if, then very little experience. The more, these" therapists" were not somatic therapist. The have just done the same online course I did....and in that course there was no somatic therapy. Additionally, these "therapists" had to negotiate the price with the client. I did not know it that I would be subjected to this as I had made clear to Annie Brook that I actually do not search for any therapist, I am only searching for some somatic approach for my body and if there would be any PERSON EXPERIENCED in somatic approach, I could only pay the lowest price at this moment. Much later, I found out that Annie Brook had a contract with these so called therapist that she will find clients for them. They paid her money for this. It started to make sense for me why I received the scholarship and why Annie so badly wanted me to do the sessions with these so called therapist. She needed to hook me in order to have somebody for her so called therapist. Annie just forgot to inform me about this fact and about what it all is about. Meanwhile Annie Brook wanted me to get in contact with a second therapist. I wanted to do what Annie Brook said because she was so kind and offered me the scholarship. This lady sent all my e-mails as copy to Annie Brook. I asked her after this and she could have not explain it. The therapist told me that she is not licensed, not registered therapist, she can only work as a coach. I asked her whether it is not unethical when she is with me in the same online course (she has just started as me) and when I am listening to her personal stories, seeing her family on video and she told me that it is not a problem for her. I asked her what kind of therapy modality it is Annie Brook uses as I have not noticed any somatic therapy approach so far. She could have not responded to me and she became visibly angry. She told me suddenly in a way that was more like a threatening me that if I I will want to commit a suicide or kill an elder (not sure where she had found an elder for me), she will be obligated to contact police ((despite she was a coach). Police in the US ? I live in far far eastern countries and I have never been to the US nor do I sadly understand the "online courses industry" there. Here was again the attempt to try to talk me into suicide. Repeating again and again that I want apparently commit a suicide, especially when I am physically sick, can lead to implanting these thoughts into brain and cause a brain traumatic injury. It could as well lead to the thought that the person will start to believe this implanted thought and actually do commit a suicide. Peter Levine speaks about it how harmful it is.

In my experience of an acclaimed online course about somatic approach, there had been shared private information (distorted on the top) about me that had to be kept private due to the confidentiality obligation of therapist. These information had been been shared without my consent, publicly in front of many people and simultaneously recorded and being put in the platform of the The Brook Institute and subsequently sold. I had been publicly shamed in the live videos by Annie Brook. Annie Brook shared without my knowledge and without my consent some private information I might have been elaborating on in a private session with her that I paid for. She suddenly started to claim in the live videos publicly that I have apparently a mentally sick parent and this is why I am "CONFUSED" . Confused means less intelligent, possibly as well mentally sick. I wondered where Annie Brook had this statements from. Thus Annie Brook tried to shame me publicly with some distorted information that had the capacity to harm my reputation. Nobody likes to be shamed and told some lies about him in the public. These videos were recorded by Annie Brook and she must have been selling them to other people until today, more than one year. She has the videos available at her platform to anybody to see who has access to this platform. Despite me asking to put these videos down because of laws of private protection, it is assumed that she did not put them down. I asked Annie Brook to send a record of data she stores about me (she herself states this legal obligation of her in her website), but I had received no answer. Annie Brook seems not to need to follow the legal obligations. Further Annie Brook claimed about me in another video that when I am being bullied, it means that the bully wants to eliminate a weak person. As the animals naturally attack a weak member of the herd in order to make the herd healthier, so the bully does. Thus, in seeing this in this whole way, what Annie Brook wanted to claim about me publicly, is that this is proper to eliminate me. Eliminate like the animals do - which means to kill ? When I asked for repair, Annie Brook started to attacking me that "I am making this up " and that "I am projecting something" and " if I do not share her reality, I have nothing to do in The Brook Institute. Subsequently Annie Brook had removed my access to the platform I am still paying money for. I had pointed in an e-mail to Annie Brook some 20 points of misbehavior towards in those paid services. Annie Brook claimed that I am projecting it and it is a complete lie. Then Annie Brook went and changed her website and used my points, sometimes even literally my words. So her website suddenly showed that her therapists are actually not therapists, but coaches and are not registered nor licensed and are in fact just friends of Annie Brook. There showed up the information that Annie Brook helps folks with double binds and that she records the videos and that the purchaser has the right to ask her for personal records of data she stores about the person, the so called therapist who were hairdresser became a therapist within two weeks from my complaints. Her entire webpage had been rewritten. So, this is strange, when I was lying about the ethical misbehavior towards me, why did she made this effort to change her webpage so swiftly ? I have the impression that I had been chosen by Annie Brook like a animal to experiment on. She knew that I search a somatic approach, but she tried to implant some thoughts about me having some mental troubles/esp. apparently wanting to commit suicide/ in my head and she used all her stuff for it to do so. It is possibly not so often to get somebody so naiv, living in poor country far away from rich US, who has physical troubles and who has heard about somatic therapy, but never tried it before. It was probably very easy to lure me on the scholarship and force me to have sessions (paid by me) with her so called therapists (aka her friends as said her website later) and make the videos of me where she is showing me to to the others as an animal object, sharing many condescending information about me. Professional psychotherapeutic ethics does not say anything to Annie Brook, I suppose. She must know that I will have hard time to access the US legal forces from the place I live, with the money I have at my disposal and with physical disease. Good calculation. My first and only experience with somatic therapy had been very unsafe. All for my money I paid to Annie Brook. Thus as well, significant portion of money had been lured out of me by the fradulent representation of the work of Annie Brook.

Well said. I am 77 and was married to my accepting wife for 51 years and cared for her with MS for 26 years before she passed. It was illegal to be gay when I was younger. So I lived in the closet for years. I was a Baptist Pastor at one stage but told I am not welcome to even attend church. I have been through 13 years of reparative therapy and electronic shock therapy, which actually proved medically that I am gay. My family is accepting. I am not looking for a boyfriend or husband. Too old now. Its so much easier for the younger generation now and that is great. All the very best to you.

My issue is from having major car accident, i had major right sided trauma pelvic injuries, torn acl tendon, and broken arms. I use to be fine, but now i know I can’t thrust for to long as well as I use to do, also I get aching in my knee and I’m not as flexible, this happened when I was 29, I’m 37 now I’ve often cancelled hookups. Because I don’t want to be complaining of aches and pain feeling like an old man, and I enjoy giving pleasure, so believing and knowing I’m restricted, I have terrible panic and anxiety. Not being able to a least thrust, and when i get pain, it takes over the concentration when you want to cum. Pain is distracting!

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You can't let your partner go to the bathroom alone. WTF.

Funny, until recently I hadn't realized that Mario updated his favorite way to tackle ED and it's a relief! Although what he previously suggested was pretty good, it was a real pain to follow... I just go'ogled the latest in Mario's Thunderous Erections, it's so much easier and potent now!

Hey there! Just stumbled upon your video, and I must say, it's incredibly insightful on expanding our window of tolerance. The way you delve into understanding emotions and our nervous system is truly eye-opening. As someone who also explores emotional resilience and inner peace through on my Christian channel, I deeply appreciate your unique perspective on this important topic. Subscribed and looking forward to more enriching content from your channel!

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And what would one do if the window is just closed, locked & shuttered up? I know all the techniques to control my body, my heart rate, calm my emotions, etc. not working. My window is shut. I’m not depressed, the secretary in my brain has just quit.

Thanks for this, I didn't realize that Merle updated his favorite way to make her explode in pure bliss, it’s amazingly satisfying. Although what he suggested before was fairly good, it doesn’t even compare, I did it go’ogling Merle Winestol, and she just can’t have enough now.

Thanks so much for this video, one thing about society that is overlooked or not really talked about it how boys are taught to be ashamed of their bodies and desires in church, in religions. Growing up, it was so antagonizing to have to step away from countless relationships and potential amazing experiences because of the shame and guilt I felt about my desire.

Thankyou Ryan, this was magnificent ❤

This presentation makes more sense to me and deals with the issues that I suffer from than any other blog, sex therapist, or TED talk than I’ve ever come across by far. I play it every day.

Such a beautiful and powerful speech. Thank you so much for speaking up many hidden issues out for the LGBTIQ+ community. I loved it so much.

Very helpful!! I love the way you wrote this video, i love listening to you

Brfore having sex i cant be hard with partner

One negative encounter with a size queen and you will suffer performance anxiety for the rest of your life.

transgenderism is a sin and against the Bible

"all the permissions" y'all the fuckin reason I got fat

Birthing people...the language of erasure

Very insightful! I mainfested attraction to other males as early as 4 years old. I didn't know it was seen as bad until I heard adults' conversations. Then shame set in, which mutes the self and causes it to withdraw. That was the birth of my inner struggle between authentic me and the masked me. Religion fueled this struggle inexorably. However, the struggle reached its peak from 1980, when I left Christianity to follow the path I was born for, to 1985, when I got past wanting the approval of my parents. Ah, then life got better. The worst was behind me. I sculpted my body at the gym, pursued a French degree at SFSU, listened to Joseph Campbell's Power of the Myth and to John Bradshaw's Inner Child videos. I picked up a pamphlet at a Church of Science that gave advice that always stuck with me: never take on another's burdens; wish them well, and go your way. Then, finally, a massage client presented me with a book for my birthday, Care of the Soul by Thomas Moore. I devoured it in one day. My soul was ready to evolve. That was August 1994. October 9, 1994, my father called. To make a long story short, upon hanging up from the conversation, I felt a maelstrom of emotions: anger, frustration, confusion, regret. In short, my inner child was wounded and I had never truly addressed that. That emotional state led me into what I now call, conscious meditation. One of the things I meditated on is, what does it mean, to honor your father and mother? I knew it couldn't mean never doing anything to upset them. Then it became clear, as I sat quietly in meditation. I was born into that family to learn certain life lessons. With that realization, divisive emotions alchemized into compassion, and in the presence of compassion, forgiveness is spontaneous and effortless. It was on that day, at 35 years old, on October 9, 1994, that my whole life took a different direction entirely, in that my Guidance comes from within me as does my validation, my peace and my happiness. In a nutshell, whatever you're going through is a bridge to your inner depth. Anyone can access this depth, this arcane knowing and peace, but the condition is that you must be honest with yourself, as so rightly points out the speaker in the video. Honesty is the cornerstone. Observe, meditate Experience, reflect And you will not stray from the safety of the yellow brick road, which always leads home, within you.

Fellow homosexuals, we are just fine. I left religion in 1980, at 20, and never looked back. Love yourselves, and honor the path you've been chosen for. Within you is your guidance. Meditate in stillness, and your path will be illuminated. To ease your mind, Jesus NEVER mentions anything about homosexuality, never. Nor his brother, James. Nor the disciple whom Jesus loved, John. Nor Simon Peter. Only Paul does, and we are lacking historical context, but I can assure you that homosexuality is not a sin. Being YOU, at your essence, is always good. YOU are your path. Rejoice in it! In Jewish Scripture, Sodom is often mistakenly associated with homosexuality, likely because of bigotry by people who are hypocrites. Scripture says in Jeremiah 23.14 that their sins were adultery, deceit, injustice and unrepentance; and in Ezekiel 16.49 that their sins were pride and arrogance, and that they lacked compassion. Homosexuality is never mentioned. As for the laws of Moses, man shall not lie with another man, well, this one is simple. Moses lists many other laws there. Let's see if the hypocrites observe THOSE OTHER laws: It's an abomination to eat shellfish. It's an abomination to be tattooed. It's an abomination to eat pork. It's an abomination for a husband to have sex with his wife within the seven day period after she menstruates. I could go on, but you get the picture. I would recommend that you not associate with people who discriminate against homosexuals. They are dyed-in-the-wool hypocrites. Love yourselves, and love others. It is this that fulfills the law, not being this or that. Paul is the one who says: The kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness, peace and joy. To the pure, all things are pure. All things are lawful to me, but I will not be mastered by anything. And Jesus himself said: It is not what goes into a man that defiles him, but what proceeds out of his heart that defiles him. Be pure of heart, and be yourself! Love and Light!

I think it can be a mistake to believe that when we feel shame around sex that it is truly our core issue. Many of us had emotionally shaming experiences as small children and then later discovered that sex was an amazing way to escape our shame and connect with our true self, even if only for a moment. Then, because of the shaming culture around sex in our society, we pile more shame on top of ourselves for our sexual choices and habits. Point being, it’s very important to go for deep core of shame inside of us, rather than focusing on something that might only be a symptom.